There is one thing I love and also hate about my husband of over two decades, and that is his ability to make me smile even when I am dead set angry at him. He finds a way of injecting humour into every situation, even right there amid a very serious argument, while I am still seething in anger and planning my next move to get back at him. Then he says or does something, and that brings a smile to my face and crumbles the wall of resentment that I was trying so hard to erect against him. People wonder if we ever fight and I ask myself, how do I get mad at this guy that finds a way of melting my heart, even in the midst of conflicts?
While getting myself ready for a session that borders on conflict resolution skills, I was reminded of humour being one of the skills that one can make use of to resolve conflicts within a relationship creatively and this brought to mind my very own relationship and the real benefits of humour.
So, my next question is, when was the last time you laughingly ended a fight with your partner without letting it escalate further? Humour opens our eyes to a lot of good things in life; it makes us feel light and also confirms that life is what we make of it. Conflicts will arise, and your hubby will feel like a jerk sometimes. But be truthful..you will hate yourself for some things you did or said, but then after reviewing the situation, you should try to make light of the situation and apologize jokingly. Try using humour to strengthen your relationships. As a therapist, sometimes I inject humour into my sessions depending on the circumstances, most times I realize this in a way help to build rapport and trust between us and some of my clients feel relaxed even from their very first session with me. So, if you think you need to talk to someone, do feel free to give us a call at New Beginnings Barrie, we will be glad to help you smile again even amidst your pain and walk the journey with you.
Written by Ibukun Ogunsina, New Beginnings Barrie, Psychotherapy and Counselling Services. Website: www.newbeginningsbarrie.com
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