I am a Mom, a prayer warrior, and also a therapist, but despite all these impressive accolades, I worry a lot. I worry when my kids are invited to parties that involve swimming, even though they can swim confidently, sometimes, I also dissuade them from going only because I will not be there. Most times, I worry about little things even after praying about such things. Why do I do this? I am so sure I am not the only mother that battles with this anxiety. The funny thing is I also pray a lot. Still, I ask myself, do I use my praying sessions as a coping strategy just for the in moment support when the anxiety rears its ugly head, or do I truly trust in the power of prayer?, do I fully trust that God has everything under His control?
This past weekend, we had an awesome couple visit us, and our conversation with them brought to light the general fears mothers battle with despite our perception of being spiritual. But my “aha moment” did not flicker until I told her that even as a therapist, my anxiety is deeply rooted in fear, and my fear is also rooted in my past trauma of losing a couple of relatives while growing up.
Some of us are still going around with traumas from our past years, we have refused to relinquish the pains, hurts, and fears of our earlier years, and we unknowingly project that hurt onto our parenting styles. We are scared of what could, may or may not happen, and in a way, we deprive our children of so many excellent opportunities of learning to do a lot of things that we never had the opportunities to do while growing up.
So, for me, I have made up my mind to continue praying but not only as a coping strategy but then also to let bygones be bygones and reinforce my belief in God. I have decided to relinquish all my past trauma and also toss any lingering hurt from previous losses onto the sea of forgetfulness and ask for the grace to live life to the fullest, knowing that I have a Father in Heaven who has my back, what about you? Will you join me in still committing our children, plans and all issues to God in prayer and letting Him handle it all and also be at peace to allow our children to enjoy their lives having the wisdom and the wherewithal of how to behave responsibly as we have brought them up to do without limiting them.
Written by Ibukun Ogunsina, New Beginnings Barrie, Psychotherapy and Counselling Services. Website: www.newbeginningsbarrie.com
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