A Letter to My 13-Year-Old Self

I recently stumbled upon a picture of myself at about 13 years old. It reminded me of a technique I often share with my clients: writing a letter to the younger version of themselves—the little girl or boy they used to be. I encourage them to show that younger self love, to celebrate how far they’ve come, to express pride in who they are becoming, and to name the milestones they’ve achieved. This practice fosters positivity, boosts self-esteem, helps bring closure to unresolved issues, and offers insight into who they are now and who they are becoming.

So, here’s my own letter…

My Dear 13-year-old Ibukun,

Looking at that picture in front of my parents’ house in Ibadan, Nigeria. I see your bright smile, your round cheeks, and the way you always struggled to keep your eyes fully open in photos—you still do, by the way. But more than that, I feel the peace that came from the solid foundation your parents gave you. You’re wearing that green flowery dress Mum bought with her teacher’s salary—and I still remember that a few months later, it was stolen… lol.

The second picture shows who I am now, forty years later, on the balcony of a beautiful hotel in Santorini, Greece. Truly, the Lord has been good. The smile is still there, but Ibukun, you’ve been through so much. That smile now comes from your security in God. Your parents are gone, you’ve lived in several countries, built your own family, failed and passed exams, been healed of many ailments, learned to be a parent and a virtuous wife..yes o! changed careers, and found your footing again and again.

If I could tell that 13-year-old girl anything, it would be this: Don’t lose your smile. Keep your round cheeks. And most importantly, seek deeper roots in God. There will come a time when you miss your parents deeply, but God will surround you with people who love and care for you—especially your spouse and children—and you’ll continue to encourage others along the way.

I could write much more, but I hope this encourages you—and everyone reading—to reflect with gratitude. Find an old picture of yourself, place it beside who you are now, and lift your eyes to God in praise for keeping you alive and standing. Replace regret with gratitude, and you will experience His all-encompassing peace throughout this year.

Written by Ibukun Ogunsina,
New Beginnings Barrie,
Psychotherapy and Counselling Services.
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